Emotional/Psychological Banking

You ever get so tired of people? Especially the ones that are always asking you for a favour, maybe dumping their woes me on you constantly? The ones that just won’t go home and over stay their welcome perhaps?

Ever wonder why you feel so over whelmed, drained and just blah?

Well think of it this way:

Consider yourself a bank account.  For everything you do for someone else, no matter what it is, is a withdrawal.  Big or small, it will take it out of your account until there is nothing left.  To maintain these withdrawals, you need to make deposits.  A deposit is something done for you.

When you don’t have something done for you but you are always doing something for others you become emotionally and psychologically bankrupt.

Those of us who are bankrupt emotionally or psychologically don’t know how to say no. Not knowing how to say no stems from not knowing what your personal boundaries are, or knowing what they are but not enforcing them.

We teach people how to treat us. If we teach them that they can expect a yes every time they ask us for something or to do something for them – then they keep taking until we have nothing left.

It’s okay to say no. You are allowed to say no. When you learn the word no is not an evil, end all word that destroys worlds the takers of this world won’t stick around you for very long because they know that you will not tolerate being taken from by them to the point of exhaustion.

Stand up for yourself, be firm in your personal boundaries and learn when to say no thank you.

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